Sunday, December 6, 2009

To Be A Strong, Black Woman

I would like to come forward and admit right now that I secretly want to be a strong black woman. The realization came to me recently. Hubby and I were discussing my affinity for programs on BET (Black Entertainment Television to those who are not familiar). Here are a few things that (culturally speaking) I am not supposed to like (I guess) because I am white:

1) Queen Latifah
2) Mo'Nique
3) Phat Girls
4) Beauty Shop
5) Big Momma's House
6) Madea
7) Sweet potato pie
8) my butt

The list gets longer but you get the picture. Once I posted on Facebook that I was watching Madea Goes To Jail....the response that I got was - Why?

Ok, here's the thing, and I totally mean this without being a smart ass whatsoever...there is something about the African American culture that I love. And something about it that makes me want to be a part of it. If you knew me you would probably laugh your ass off. I am about as white as they come. I'm so white I'm almost see-through. I have blonde hair (most of the time). Most of the clothing in my closet comes from Eddie Bauer. I am sooooooooooo white! But there is an openness, a closeness, a sense of pride, a sense of "I know I'm alright".....that the black culture has that my culture just doesn't.

So I want to be a strong, black woman. And I don't care if you think I'm weird.


  1. I think I know what you mean. It seems, to me, that the typical white person lacks the heritage that other cultures have... whether it's African-American, Latin or Asian. Most of the white families I know, don't have that sense of family.

  2. Not weird at all!

    Go yo' big momma.=)

  3. We like what we like!

    Especially our PHAT butts!

    Hugs and Mocha,

  4. Weird? Why? Isn't that what everybody wants?

  5. You're so right. My old best friend was black and her family alone was so big and so tight and they had these great mighty parties with seemingly hundreds of cousins and aunts and childhood friends ... and just being in that kind of community was so different from what I'm used to. I totally get this.

  6. Do you still live in Detroit... as you should be around enough black people to at least somewhat assimilate to our culture.

  7. I went to a party once with mostly black ladies and I'm telling you what...did they know how to have fun!!!! They laughed and danced and got loud and didn't have that sense of self-doubt and insecurity that us white girls have. No...I don't think you're weird and I totally get this!